Chinese Parents Suck!

Wow! Why Chinese Mothers are Superior by Amy Chua.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something—whether it's math, piano, pitching or ballet—he or she gets praise, admiration and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more.

Personally, I think that the Asian method that this lady talks about is CRAZY! In her words, Chinese parents are tough and that is the way they got their children to do what they want them to. Their way of motivating their children is by talking smack to them and degrading them. She talks about having fun only when the children become good at something. Children are supposedly lazy and they do not want to do their work to improve on something. In turn, the Chinese or Asian parents have to be tough and 'encourage' them by being rude and calling them names for' motivation'.WTF!

Asian parents do not want to comfort their children, they want their kids to do as they say and go with it no matter how they feel about it. Chua is trying to demean the Western parents by saying that they are not tough enough and that Chinese parents are better in terms of being strict. That's so dumb. My mom does a great job wiht me and she isn't rude to me or call me worthless if I don't get something right.

The thing that kind of tipped me off the most was the fact that I almost got the vibe from this article that the Asian parents will only love their kids if they do something right. She says that the child will get praise and admiration for their good work. Parents should be there for their kids no matter what. Even if their child were to fail at something, then the parents should give support instead of the Chinese version of 'encouraging words'. I would hate my parents if they acted like these Chinese parents. I'm just saying.